"A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves." Lao Tzu
"With an undefended heart, we can fall in love with life over and over every day. We can become children of wonder, grateful to be walking on earth, grateful to belong with each other and to all of creation. We can find our true refuge in every moment, in every breath." Tara Brach
To be color-blind is not enough. Everyone is prejudice, acting upon these prejudices ends with discrimination. Every society includes a social, legal, and institutional power that can transform discrimination into racism. Only through discourse can these realities be named and exposed, leading to the possibility of change. The bad news is that you are not immune, the good news is you can be part of the solution.
"What gets measured, gets managed." - Attributed to Peter Drucker
The poor, homeless, abused, and marginalized are ever present. For some, they are living out the consequences of bad decisions. For others, circumstances outside of their control delivered them to the chaotic and stressful life they wake up to each day. Recognizing their humanity demands a response from those with means. Our response proclaims who we are.
Friendship is a gift that is both given and received from those that embrace our shortcomings and celebrate our wins. Unlike family, we get to choose who is within our circle. A determiner of our success in life is who influences us day-to-day, and our friends maintain the majority of this influence. It is said, "we are the average of our five closest friends." Choose wisely.
A job interview is as much about you checking to see if this job is the right fit for your as it is about the company finding the right person for the vacancy. These questions are a good start to ensure you understand the job dynamics before you choose to say "yes."
The cadre of candidates is nervously sitting in the lobby awaiting a turn before your panel. Getting the right person in the right seat on the bus is resource intense, and discernment is needed to select the right hire. Your board knows the technical questions to ask to validate the experience outlined on the resume. The following questions are meant to get to see the candidate holistically and ensure your selection is a good fit for all parties.
The table is set, wine is chilled, food prepared, and guests are arriving. Greetings, handshakes, hugs, and smiles abound. To get the conversational juices flowing, ask the evening's starter question...
Most questions cause us to think. Some questions feel like a punch to the gut and leave us reeling, lunging for the nearest escape. Just because a question is painful, doesn't mean it shouldn't be asked. Condemnation is not the goal. A sober assessment of our experience and the world around us allow for a baseline from which to move forward.
Mentors come in all shapes and sizes. The grandmothers wisdom, a dog-eared book, an executive a few rungs up the ladder, a podcast, or the faded bumper sticker on the car that just cut you off. Most will play the role of Mentor and Mentee over our lifetime, and knowing the right questions can make all the difference.
Conversations have a natural ebb and flow. Sometimes the story ends or silence provides a gap that needs a bridge. Providing a nudge to keep things going and learn more is as easy as...
Hold on to the faintest glimmer of hope; and each breathe is another shimmer.