#62 Haru Yamada: Flashlights, Lanterns, and the Way We Listen

"Not being a hundred percent sure all the time is a weird strength." - Haru Yamada

In this episode of Curated Questions, Ken Woodward is in conversation with Dr. Haru Yamada, a sociolinguist, intercultural communication scholar, and author of Kiku: The Japanese Art of Good Listening, to explore what it really means to listen. Haru traces her early understanding of questions back to age four, when she moved from Tokyo to New York and had to use questions as a tool for language, belonging, and survival.

Together, they unpack how culture shapes communication: English often rewards “flashlight” questioning, the precise, content-driven clarity, while Japanese culture tends to favor a “lantern” approach that illuminates context, relationship, and what isn’t said. Haru also shares the harrowing accident that reshaped her understanding of listening as a health practice, linking felt-heard experiences to relational, mental, and even physical well-being.

In a noisy, multitasking world, this conversation reframes listening as an active, life-giving skill, and a compass for navigating each other with empathy.

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#39 Scott Johnson: How Asking 'What Was That Like' Creates Extraordinary Connection

In this episode of Curated Questions, host Ken Woodward engages with Scott Johnson, the creator of the 'What Was That Like' podcast. The discussion examines how Scott's podcast cultivates profound human connections through storytelling. Scott shares insights into his journey from a computer business owner to a podcaster, revealing the meticulous preparation and empathy required to capture extraordinary true stories. They delve into themes like the power of questions, creating safe spaces for sharing trauma, and Scott's personal journey of religious deconstruction. Highlights include profound and outlandish stories from Scott’s podcast, the impact of a supportive community, and using personal pain to create purpose. The episode is an insightful exploration of how curiosity and storytelling can break down barriers and build authentic connections.

#36 Jeff Wetzler: When Every Conversation Holds Possibility

In this episode of Curated Questions, host Ken Woodward welcomes Jeff Wetzler, a distinguished leader in business and education, to discuss the profound impact of asking quality questions. Jeff introduces his 'Ask' approach and elucidates how curiosity can transform leadership and personal growth. The conversation delves into various strategies for designing impactful questions, leveraging curiosity in conflict situations, and the importance of reflective listening. Jeff also shares practical methods to expand one's natural curiosity, highlighting the role of intentional lifestyle choices in fostering this growth. Together, they explore how fostering genuine curiosity can lead to deeper connections and richer life experiences.